“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life. ~ John Lennon
Fear is a negative motivating force of an ignorant mind that often seeks comfort and safety, avoiding change and struggle as much as possible. Fear never lets you grow or stand courageously in the face of difficulties, nor does it let the opportunities knock at your door. It can be insignificantly small but has a large shadow which is big enough to obscure most of your vision. Moreover, fear is highly contagious – Whoever has hugged it, will keep envying those who take on it with courage and thoughtful actions.
Know the things you are afraid of?
It is high time you exposed yourself to the deepest and darkest part of fear. If you harbor any kind of fear, no matter how small or weak it might seem to be, it will gradually percolate through your entire belief system and thinking. Consequently, it will impact on your personality and strengthen you faith that you can’t face something or something won’t work out.
Ask yourself what makes you fear of something? The answer might be something like “My strengths are limited by some weaknesses. I have tried working on them but given up after a couple of unsuccessful attempts.” “Whenever I try to face them (fear) my heart starts pounding at faster rate saying ‘turn back…’”
Any way, the point is, you know the answer to all your questions. It just is that you haven’t been putting in some honest efforts.
Remember what Katherine Paterson says,
“To fear is one thing. To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.”
You have been blessed with only one life in this wonderful world, don’t waste it by letting your fear win over you. Before the total obliteration, explore your fears, shift your perspective, convert your fear into courage and use it to your advantage.
Love yourself and appreciate your life
Be the person of your own creation and love yourself for whatever and whoever you are. Remember, your thinking of yourself shapes up your personality and sets a standard to others on how to treat you. Self love is also a lesson that teaches you how to love others. By loving yourself you are accepting that you are accountable for the outcomes that you experience in your life and that you would like to shine in every situation.
“Something inside you emerges….an innate, indwelling peace, stillness, aliveness. It is the unconditioned, who you are in your essence. It is what you had been looking for in the love object. It is yourself.” – Eckhart Tolle
Your Inner Thoughts Reflect the Outer You
Happiness always emerges from inner thoughts that represent the real motives and initiate your actions which ultimately results into happiness. Think and live like a philosopher of happiness
“The person who sends out positive thoughts activates the world around him positively and draws back to himself positive results.” Norman Vincent Peale
Never personalize rejection or failure
We often break down in front of rejections and failures because we take it personally. I have heard people saying, ‘I have failed or I have been rejected’ which is completely wrong; it is not ‘YOU’ who is a ‘FAILURE’ rather your action that resulted into failure. There was nothing wrong with you; the problem was in your preparation. You really did not fail; it just is that you were in experiment phase and have not succeeded yet.
“Supposing you have tried and failed again and again. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.” ~Mary Pickford
Be grateful and thankful to whoever has ever helped you
Learn to be thankful. It opens the door to abundance of joy and happiness. Happiness itself exists in living every minute with love, and gratitude.
“It is necessary, then, to cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” Wallace D. Wattles