As parents, we tend to discuss all kinds of accountability in our day-to-day life; yet, responsibility as a parent we evade to discuss in general. Parenting is a fulltime job for young parents. We love our children more than we can say but we are not sure as to how to help them grow into happy, caring and responsible children. There is no doubt that all parents want the best for their children. Then why is it so difficult for parents to keep everything in balance?
It is important to take a good look at your parenting resources and make informed decisions about the way you wish to raise your children. The good news is that adhering to a few suggestions could help you move in the right direction for a holistic upbringing.
Teaching children to cooperate with routine requests is a key issue for parents. If children ignore requests, parents often make one of the following mistakes. They either nag their children or let them be as they please. Neither of the option is suitable in such a case.
Five essential rules for making requests are:
1. Be patient 2. Use statements 3. Make one request at a time 4. Be specific 5. Make realistic requests.
This approach will reduce the time you spend yelling and nagging at your children and can make it much easier to build a warm and co-operative relationship with them.
Using incentives to encourage children’s positive behavior is a basic building block of good parenting. It promotes their self-confidence and prevents problem behavior at the same time. The trick to using incentives successfully is to ‘catch’ your children being good. Parents often get into the habit of doing just the opposite. Children need lot of support and motivation to change their behavior. Respect the child. Never abuse your child. Remember the goal is not to punish the child but to teach him not to misbehave. And simultaneously encourage appropriate behavior in its place. Comparing children is a strict ‘No’ in good parenting. To be sure each child feels that he is an individual, a special person; be careful not to compare your child. Setting limits is an important part of your job as a parent. It is just as important as giving children love and encouragement. ‘Permissive parents’ feel that children’s need for independence and freedom of expression is more important than following adult imposed rules. ‘Authoritarian parents’ on the other hand, believe that children need close supervision and firm guidance from adults. As it turns out, neither of these extremes in parenting style is healthy. Above all, you need to be consistent to help your child learn the boundaries you have set for acceptable behavior. Parents can leave it to the schools to teach their child to read, write and count. But a child’s best educational opportunities and future growth depend on the combined effort of parent, teacher and student. There is a world of difference in the child whose parents are actively involved in his learning, and the child who is totally left on his own. It is a difference not only in ability and quality of work but also in attitude and self-image. You as a parent can make the difference provided you have the time and perseverance. Always retrospect. A parent need not be correct always, give that a thought.
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